I have typed and retyped this email so many times... I start on one rant and then move to another only to move back to the first rant.
I think my rant is mostly to do with how stupid some people can be. Stupid may be a harsh word, especially if one of those 'stupid' people happen to be reading this blog. Although most stupid people don't even know they are stupid (reminds me of The Sixth Sense)... think about it.
Why do I think people are stupid you ask? Well, some people really don't understand how the actions they take are a drop in a pond. The ripple goes on forever.
I can admit that I have made stupid decisions but I have never done anything serious enough to cause regret. I never like to say I regret things. I find that when you are in deep regret about something you tend to overlook the things that you should learn from those experiences. Hence, why I never regret anything.
I believe, like you probably do, that there is something to learn from everything. For a long time I would focus on what has happened in the past, not in regret, but more mulling over it... intensely. I liken this experience to driving a car. While we drive we look in our rearview mirror to see what is behind us. When we drive we focus more on what is ahead of us because if we do not, we crash. So when I would focus so much on my past I was missing what is in front and I would crash and burn (not literally).
I notice sometimes while I am driving that I will glance in my rearview and notice a car behind me and then I will turn my focus on what is ahead. It will take me a while before I look back again and when I do, I realise the car that was there is gone and I panic a bit, wondering where it went. I know in driving it is important to pay attention to everything on the road: ahead, behind and to the sides. But I do not focus so much on one that I do not see other things on the road.
Life is a road... we must not focus so much on what is behind that we lose sight of where we are going. We also must not focus so much on what is ahead that we forget where and what we came from.
I started out by talking about stupid people and I was going to rant on about stupid decisions people have made. I do not wish to rant about that. I do not wish to focus so much on the destination but experience the journey... but most of all, I wish for the world to remember the ripples...
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Wednesday, January 02, 2008
New Year Resolutions...
Is it New Years Resolutions or new year's resolution or new year resolutions... the latter makes more sense to me but I could be wrong and I probably am.
2007 has come and gone and I ran in 2008 with a nice burn on my hand. I hope this is not an omen of things to come.
I thought about making resolutions for the new year but they generally are broken two days into the year. Although, I think the wording of the resolution makes a difference... for example, I will do this more and I won't do that... chances are you won't do that and you will end up doing the other. Why set yourself up for failure like that? Life is unpredictable. I would love to make a resolution that said I will not swear but c'mon... have you ever driven a car or played a competitive game (video, sport, etc)?? But in my effort to not make new year resolutions... I have already made one.
All one can really hope for in the coming year or years is that they are a better person than the previous year. I think that is a respectable goal... or resolution... or whatever.
2007 has come and gone and I ran in 2008 with a nice burn on my hand. I hope this is not an omen of things to come.
I thought about making resolutions for the new year but they generally are broken two days into the year. Although, I think the wording of the resolution makes a difference... for example, I will do this more and I won't do that... chances are you won't do that and you will end up doing the other. Why set yourself up for failure like that? Life is unpredictable. I would love to make a resolution that said I will not swear but c'mon... have you ever driven a car or played a competitive game (video, sport, etc)?? But in my effort to not make new year resolutions... I have already made one.
All one can really hope for in the coming year or years is that they are a better person than the previous year. I think that is a respectable goal... or resolution... or whatever.
Monday, December 03, 2007
A Spin on Dating
Hanging out with other couples (married or not) is like dating. Some couples you click with and others you just don't.
Dave and I had dinner at another couple's house and I knew before going in their home that we wouldn't click. I knew the relationship was over before it had started. We just had nothing in common. It was the first time we had hung out and we went through the niceties of "where do you work? where did you serve your mission? etc" But after that is gone we had to find different commonalities or interests. This couple did not have cable which meant that they did not watch television. Generally speaking, conversations seem to always revolve on what happened on Grey's, Survivor, or whatever the flavor of the month is. So, the television conversation piece was abruptly thrown out the window and the next thing you talk about is the weather. One can only say "oh ya, it is cold out eh?" so many times before it gets old. Some couples are board game fanatics; our date was not. Needless to say, we left their house with Dave saying "ya, we'll have to have you over for dinner to our place sometime." Knowing full well that this probably won't happen. It's not that I hate this couple or even slightly dislike them, it's just that we did not click. Plus, I think we would corrupt them with all the movies and video games and systems we had.
After the first date, the next stage is the awkwardness of having polite conversation with them because honestly, how do you break up with them. It's not like when you were dating and you could just say "it's not you it's me" or "I just don't see this working out"... And then, what do you do when they invite you over again, to pretend your busy or tell them you are seeing another couple?? It just doesn't work that way. It's worse when you are married because the other couple may still anticipate a relationship of sorts but you can never really tell them it's over.
Dave and I had dinner at another couple's house and I knew before going in their home that we wouldn't click. I knew the relationship was over before it had started. We just had nothing in common. It was the first time we had hung out and we went through the niceties of "where do you work? where did you serve your mission? etc" But after that is gone we had to find different commonalities or interests. This couple did not have cable which meant that they did not watch television. Generally speaking, conversations seem to always revolve on what happened on Grey's, Survivor, or whatever the flavor of the month is. So, the television conversation piece was abruptly thrown out the window and the next thing you talk about is the weather. One can only say "oh ya, it is cold out eh?" so many times before it gets old. Some couples are board game fanatics; our date was not. Needless to say, we left their house with Dave saying "ya, we'll have to have you over for dinner to our place sometime." Knowing full well that this probably won't happen. It's not that I hate this couple or even slightly dislike them, it's just that we did not click. Plus, I think we would corrupt them with all the movies and video games and systems we had.
After the first date, the next stage is the awkwardness of having polite conversation with them because honestly, how do you break up with them. It's not like when you were dating and you could just say "it's not you it's me" or "I just don't see this working out"... And then, what do you do when they invite you over again, to pretend your busy or tell them you are seeing another couple?? It just doesn't work that way. It's worse when you are married because the other couple may still anticipate a relationship of sorts but you can never really tell them it's over.
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